Learn to handle rejection

October 28, 2009 · Filed Under Dating tips 

Rejection is the most painful thing on this earth. As Mahatma Gandhi once said “Of all the pains I endured, being unwanted is the most horrible ever”. Such is the misery of being unwanted or being rejected that we want to go crazy, blame ourselves for the mishap and end our lives. Rejection has lead to suicides. It can really be that painful.
However thinking with a clearer mindset, rejection happens only because we feel disappointed at other’s person’s actions. The reason we get disappointed is, because, the other person did not behave in a way we expected them to. Hence expectation is the root cause of rejection. The lesser we expect, the lesser we feel rejected. Yes, it is definitely easier to say than to act this way.
Rejection can happen due a very simple reason that someone didn’t behave the way we wanted them to, or due to a very complex reason that one person cheats in a relationship. The first outcome of feeling rejected is feeling worthless or unimportant. We feel that only because we feel worthless the other person rejects us. First of all, we need to come out of this mental block and learn to accept that not everyone would behave the way we want them to.
There should be a open discussion as to why there was a disappointment and the partners must mutually agree on things that have to be done to make the relationship strong going forward. Where love prevails, rejection does not dominate. However where ego prevails, there is lot of room for rejection and misunderstanding. So problems can always be discussed and sorted out if the reason for rejection is simple.
However in cases where rejection happens because one partner is unfaithful in a relationship, then it goes beyond the compromising stage. Here the innocent partner has to take a call. If he / she cannot stand disloyalty then it is better to end the relationship in nice terms. There is no fun in continuing a strained relationship and there is no reason to feel rejected.

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