Learn to handle rejection
Rejection is the most painful thing on this earth. As Mahatma Gandhi once said “Of all the pains I endured, being unwanted is the most horrible ever”. Such is the misery of being unwanted or being rejected that we want to go crazy, blame ourselves for the mishap and end our lives. Rejection has lead to suicides. It can really be that painful.
However thinking with a clearer mindset, rejection happens only because we feel disappointed at other’s person’s actions. The reason we get disappointed is, because, the other person did not behave in a way we expected them to. Hence expectation is the root cause of rejection. The lesser we expect, the lesser we feel rejected. Yes, it is definitely easier to say than to act this way.
Rejection can happen due a very simple reason that someone didn’t behave the way we wanted them to, or due to a very complex reason that one person cheats in a relationship. The first outcome of feeling rejected is feeling worthless or unimportant. We feel that only because we feel worthless the other person rejects us. First of all, we need to come out of this mental block and learn to accept that not everyone would behave the way we want them to.
There should be a open discussion as to why there was a disappointment and the partners must mutually agree on things that have to be done to make the relationship strong going forward. Where love prevails, rejection does not dominate. However where ego prevails, there is lot of room for rejection and misunderstanding. So problems can always be discussed and sorted out if the reason for rejection is simple.
However in cases where rejection happens because one partner is unfaithful in a relationship, then it goes beyond the compromising stage. Here the innocent partner has to take a call. If he / she cannot stand disloyalty then it is better to end the relationship in nice terms. There is no fun in continuing a strained relationship and there is no reason to feel rejected.
Figure out what to look for in a date
It is very important to get priorities right before entering into a date. One should know what he wants only then he will find satisfaction in his relationship. While writing personal ads, one must clearly specify what his priorities are and what he is looking for in his partner. This will help the online dating services to search only those compatible profiles and match it with his profile.
Some people might have beauty as their top most priority. These kind of people should first get the photographs of their potential dates and then proceed with the relationship. After asking a host of personal questions and sounding quite interesting to the other person and then if he rejects her after looking at the photo, the whole affair would look very immature.
Some people have education as their priority. They want their date to be highly qualified and they take immense pride in the qualification of their dates. These people might have to check for the education background and its authenticity too (if required), before entering into a commitment. Even for being a date, one has to be honest and hence it is better to set priorities right initially than repenting later.
Some people, for obvious reasons are interested in the financial security. They want their dates to be very well off and hugely successful because it would look great to go with a rich partner. He / she might want to parade around with his / her rich partner and take pride for himself. These kind of people must be very careful because one can never really prove how well off one is. These people should settle for someone who has a highly paid, secured job so that they don’t have to regret later.
Some interesting people look out for partners with a witty sense of humor. However overdose of humor could make the other person think that you are only trying to impress her, hence it is important to play just your part. Humor combined with wit is a huge hit among ladies and they want their men to be a ideal combination of both.